bul-ly
1. A person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker
The word bully (or term bullied) can bring back memories of a negative kind for a large deal of people - be it through personal experiences, or that of their children, partner or friends. The bleak reality is that bullying is something that will always exist in society, most noticeably in schools.
"A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, regularly and over-time, to negative actions on the part of one or more persons" (Olweus - cited in Besag - 1989, p1)
I myself know of victims of bullying during school years, with the course of action taken in the majority of cases by the schools involved being insufficient in bringing about a permanent change. In one particular long-term case of bullying, the schools decided path to resolution involved speaking to the bullies' parents - a questionable approach. I say this with the following mindset; if a child is fearless enough to antagonise a fellow pupil, then surely they are deserving of the consequences?
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A handful of organisations that combine campaigning with the assisting of bullying victims. |
My opinion in regards to the aforementioned case is not to be misinterpreted as a generalisation of how all educational establishments deal with bullying - it is merely an example of what I think was poorly made decision. To truly and efficiently begin to tackle a bullying situation, I believe a comprehensive understanding of the conflict occurring should be transferred from the victim to an appropriate figure.
Although I understand that every bullying case is different from the next, a program with a structure (of sorts) wouldn't go amiss in assisting the processes of understanding and resolution. The steps of constructive talking (McConnon, 2010) could serve as an effective starting point, with the first two being especially applicable:
1. Talk about what they are feeling, including key concerns and needs
2. Encourage the use of 'I' language - helping the subject feel heard, as well as aiding the rebuild of self-esteem
Although school years are said to be the 'best of your life', this is unfortunately not the case for all, which makes helping those that fall into the latter all the more important.
Taking these foundation steps would prevent rash decisions being made in early stages, whilst constructive conversation would allow a figure of authority to reflect on what they have heard prior to deciding on further action.
Do you think enough is done to resolve bullying in schools?
Have you been a victim? In what situation/s? Did you reach out for help?